STAG! STAG! STAG!
Every groom who gets married should have a stag do to remember. Don’t forget, not everyone does. I’ve organised a couple of stag do’s, and been on a fair few – so here are few pointers that, in my opinion, are key to success:
Don’t forget what the groom likes
Personally, I hate the ‘traditional’ stag do. Getting the groom steaming before you’ve even left, dressing him up in a ‘mankini’ then screwing him over all weekend. This is not my cup of tea. I regardless this as lazy and unimaginative.
I would really consider what your groom likes, and what the people who are coming on the stag are like. If everyone is likely to ‘buy into’ what you’re planning, it’s likely to be a roaring success.
So, for the recent stag do I organised I considered all the above – and we had an unreal time. The smaller details are as important as the big things, even down to aspects like i(f you choose to wear) fancy dress. For example, 13 of us dressed up as fishermen and the groom was a fish. His surname is Fisher – it went down a storm.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you if you want to hammer the groom all weekend to send him off into the world of marriage. Just don’t forget, this is (hopefully…) the only time in his life that all his best mates will be away on his stag do – so consider if he is likely to want to remember at least some of it!
Being a leader of men
As with the speech, some people are more comfortable with this than others. However, like it or lump it, on a stag do people want to have direction. If this doesn’t come naturally, it all comes down to organisation. Preparation is vital – and research is key.
For example, you should consider, and know, prior to going:
- where you are going, with directions
- what times you need to stick to
- what pubs/bars to go to
- if things go wrong, what’s your back up plan?
Making the unforgettable, truly unforgettable
Of course, going away on a stag do with your best mates isn’t going to be something you forget in a hurry. However, there are some things you can do to create extra buzz.
Here are a few sugestions:
Research where to go, and if possible find somewhere where the majority of people haven’t been before. You don’t want to retrace old steps
Go somewhere for a reason. Don’t go to a place if you’re just going sit in an Irish bar for two days, you could do that anywhere…
It’s a big call, but keeping the location a secret from everyone builds huge anticipation. Just keep your nerve and don’t give in to the relentless questions about destination…
Give people a memento. A medal for winning the activity, or even a t shirt with a logo on it. Cheap t shirts and iron on transfers make things like this very easy
Now, this does depend on the people who are going on the stag do. I’ve found that asking people for a specific amount of money (i.e. £200) several months before is a great way to organise a stag.
This also minimises the hit on the wallet when you’re actually away, especially if you can cover as much as possible with the budget whilst you’re away (i.e. activity, accommodation, travel, fancy dress).
One of the best things, in my opinion, is to ensure there is enough budget left for a group ‘kitty’ (a pot of money to use for beers whilst you’re on stag). Try to not spend all of the budget on accommodation/travel/activity. Staying in group rooms in hostels and booking flights early, certainly helps keep costs down.
If people pay for the stag well in advance, having a kitty always goes down well as it feels like they aren’t spending any money!
In summary, each best man should consider his role on an individual basis. My main advice to any best man about to undertake his role making sure that you do consider it individually, personally and dedicate sufficient time and energy to it. It is something that will always remain with you, your friends, and the groom – and will always be remembered.